- Double X: Why won’t feminists admit the pleasure of infants? This article by Katie Roiphe touched off many discussions, including the comments on the original post, a follow up post on double X, a great response over at Shapely Prose, a response to the response from Blue Milk, and many more discussions on other blogs. Personally, I’ve fallen in love with a couple of babies, and it is great. But of course life goes on, those babies grow up to be toddlers, kids, and eventually adults, and no parents can indulge in the newborn crush phase forever. And in many families there’s more than one parent, and I don’t hear that parent getting to be a part of this newborn lovefest. What I’d really love to hear is dads writing essays about how society seems to completely ignore their overwhelming love for their children. Loving children isn’t a feminist issue, it’s a human issue.
- Two Women Blogging: Eve and Her Two Mothers I found this post by Jay moving because she’s trying to deal honestly with the difficulties of interacting with her daughter’s birth mother. It made me think about our own family choices and how Leigh and Ira have a donor and donor siblings that may someday be important to them. That fact makes me uncomfortable, and has at times felt threatening to my family. For me, it helps to remember that while they aren’t people I consider to be part of my family, my children may feel differently. I really appreciated getting to see how another family, constituted differently, deals with this issue.
- Free Range Kids: Dear Abby — Again with the Abductors?
- Adjustment [and] Disorder: In Which I Add My Two (Make that Ten) Cents to The Bad Mother Dialogue…Here’s an great post by SWMama about “The Bad Mother.” In it, she discusses the way that confessing “I’m such a bad mother because….” actually “only serves to continue the already damaging trend of mothers judging, criticizing, and putting down other mothers.”
- Damn Straight Those of us that parent queerspawn would probably do well to learn what they think when they grow up. This blog isn’t very frequently updated, but I enjoy reading what Abigail had to say and checking out her links.