Donor Sibling Registry: yay or nay or …

by Gail September 26, 2011

About six years ago, I got pregnant after insemination with frozen donor sperm, and nine months later Lyn and I had a baby girl, Leigh. Like most parents, we had no idea what we were getting ourselves into. Unlike most parents (but perhaps like many parents actually reading this), part of what we had no [...]

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Mother or Father?

by Lyn September 15, 2011

I’m enjoying the writing prompts on queer parenting at Regular Midwesterners, so I took a go at their second question. Josh and Gretchen ask: “Do you think of yourself as a “mother”? A “father”? Something in between? Why?” Five and a half years ago, my wife was pregnant with Leigh and I was in my [...]

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Do you love them differently?

by Lyn August 28, 2011

On Gail’s post a while back about what we call ourselves as parents (and in what contexts), Chris, whose partner is perhaps soon trying to conceive another child for their family, asked “I am very worried I will not (love) this child as much as mine. I worry I won’t treat them equally. Hetero women [...]

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Stereotype Breakers

by Lyn August 14, 2011

We’re friends with a family with a somewhat gender-variant son, Q, who likes pink and wears his hair long (and identifies as a boy, you can read their smart thoughts at labels are for jars). Leigh has played with Q a few times, and thinks he’s fabulous, and specifically asks if we can play with [...]

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Reading kids’ books: Do we love them?

by Gail August 9, 2011

Since becoming a parent, I have realized that there is a whole genre of children’s books whose sole purpose is to remind us and our children of how much we love them, such as: Mama, Do You Love Me? I Love You Stinky Face Love You Forever I used to think they were really sweet, [...]

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Donor conception — is everything changing?

by Gail July 4, 2011
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Donor conception has been a hot news item lately. First, in May, came the ruling in British Columbia that shut down the practice of anonymous sperm donation in BC (the equivalent of the ID release in the US system is still available there). This is obviously a controversial ruling. There is talk that it could [...]

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“I wish I had a mom and a dad”

by Gail June 21, 2011

Last week, before we went to the queer pride parade, Lyn and I were talking with Leigh about what pride is and why we have it. It was a good conversation. Then suddenly Leigh blurted out, “I wish I had a mom and a dad!” Just as we were both opening up our mouths to [...]

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Talking to kids about reproduction

by Lyn June 2, 2011
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[NOTE: It was blogging for lgbt families day yesterday! Finally, after about three years, we actually managed a post on a day vaguely near the day itself and this seems like a worthy contribution so I'm going with it. Check out lots of other great posts here, and many thanks to Mombian for rounding everyone [...]

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Review of Donor Unknown

by Gail May 9, 2011
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Recently, we got to see the film Donor Unknown thanks to an online screening at the Tribeca Film Festival. Actually the online streaming was pretty crappy (or our wireless is pretty crappy, or both), and the film paused every couple of minutes, but we watched anyway. I guess that tells you something. One thing it [...]

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“Two Ima”

by Lyn May 2, 2011

A few days ago, Ira (about to turn two) pointed at me, turned to his grandmother, and said “Two Ima! Two Ima!” as if he had just made a major discovery. Now, I’m not his Ima. That’s Gail, and she wasn’t in the house at the time. Grandma and I looked at each other a [...]

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Leigh on Non-Bio Moms

by Gail April 24, 2011

Lyn and I were deep in conversation a couple of days ago about an academic article I was reading on lesbian non-bio moms. Suddenly Leigh cuts in. “Excuse me! Excuse me!” Leigh shouts. “What Leigh?” I ask in a fairly exasperated tone because the conversation was really good. “I want to be in the conversation.” [...]

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