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Shared parenting

Mom titles, the kindergarten edition

by Lyn January 6, 2012

Leigh started kindergarten this fall. She’s doing great and we are slowly adjusting to being parents of a “school-age” kid. Our district is extremely supportive of GLBT-headed families. They have a family-liason specifically for GLBT issues, who is a resource for teachers, students and families. We’ve always been certain that the school and the district [...]

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Mother or Father?

by Lyn September 15, 2011

I’m enjoying the writing prompts on queer parenting at Regular Midwesterners, so I took a go at their second question. Josh and Gretchen ask: “Do you think of yourself as a “mother”? A “father”? Something in between? Why?” Five and a half years ago, my wife was pregnant with Leigh and I was in my [...]

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The Nursing Triad

by Lyn October 13, 2010

Lex made a beautiful post a while back about her experiences as an non-gestational parent (NGP) once her 13-month-old was night weaned. Lex nursed her first three kids, boys that she gave birth to, for multiple years each, and has been supportive of her wife nursing their fourth kid in a similar way, in addition [...]

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Who should birth the baby?

by Lyn October 1, 2010

Since many lesbian couples contain two working uteri, and possibly two women willing to conceive, choosing who will try to get pregnant is a place where lesbian couples have options that a straight families don’t.  In what follows, I’m making the assumption that both partners are open to pregnancy (though perhaps with a discrepancy in [...]

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A perk of shared parenting: guilt-free travel (by myself)

by Lyn August 22, 2010

For the first time since Ira’s birth, I’m on my way to a professional conference. For five days, someone else will do the cooking and I won’t have to clean up after anybody (well, other than myself a little bit). I can easily take a shower every day if I want to (without any children [...]

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Nighttime Parenting Guilt

by Gail June 20, 2010
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Lyn and I have had a large number of different nighttime parenting arrangements. When I was still nursing Ira (and he was still waking up about ten million times a night), we traded full nights, each taking every other night. These days (now that Ira sleeps in until 4 or 5am, ugh), I’m officially “on” [...]

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Book Review: Equally Shared Parenting

by Lyn December 28, 2009

Our friends, Marc and Amy, have a brand new book out: Equally Shared Parenting: rewriting the rules for a new generation of parents. We got a sneak peak and it is amazing. It’s written primarily for heterosexual couples, but Marc and Amy write a convincing welcome to gay and lesbian families, and also include a [...]

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When your toddler prefers one parent

by Lyn August 27, 2009

Last week, Gail and I got some time to spend just with Leigh. Grandma (Gail’s mom) spent a few hours with Ira while we both took Leigh downtown for a carousel ride and lunch. We had a wonderful time, just the three of us like old times, and noticed two things. Wow is it ever [...]

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Parenting Roundup

by Gail August 12, 2009

Fatherhood Friday post: A different kind of delivery « Jesus has Two Daddies. I’m on a quest to read more dad blogs, and I recently stumbled across this great blog and the post about their new son Elijah and the amazing foster family that had been caring for him. The problem with equal parenting « [...]

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Nighttime Parenting

by Gail July 1, 2009

I have now been doing one feeding a day for Ira for a little over a week. Some of the feedings have been a little challenging, but overall the project is going well. I have a much better understanding on my son’s feeding patterns. I am sometimes deciding when he is hungry and when he [...]

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Facing the Costs of Nursing

by Gail March 25, 2009

Many other folks have weighed in on Hanna Rosin’s article The Case Against Breastfeeding, including both Amy and Marc at Equally Shared Parenting and Lisa Belkin at Motherlode, so I’m a little late to the party. But I can’t let the article go by without making some comment, because it is an important issue that [...]

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