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Donor conception

Old pain and new paths

by Lyn April 20, 2010

As Gail mentioned, we went to a workshop on talking to kids about donor conception last weekend. It was organized by the Massachusetts RESOLVE chapter and was very well done. I highly recommend checking out such a workshop if it is available in your area, and for those in MA, this is a repeating event. [...]

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Donor Conception

by Gail April 16, 2010

If you have even a passing acquaintance with our family, you know that we didn’t acquire our children through the “traditional” method. Two women simply can’t combine their genetic material to make a baby. Both of our children were conceived through the use of frozen donor sperm. It was our first choice for how we [...]

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Dad talk

by Gail July 13, 2009

Last week we finally got the question. “Ima, do you have a dad?” Leigh asked. “Yes, your Grandpa F_______ is my dad,” I answered. “Mama, do you have a dad?” “Yes, your Grandpa C_______ is my dad,” she answers as I began thinking fast in preparation for the next question. “Do I have a dad?” [...]

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Donor thoughts

by Lyn February 27, 2009

I’ve written a bit before about how we’ve chosen not to share information about our donor (such as it is) with folks outside our immediate family while our kids are still too small to understand. We feel that information belongs to Leigh (and to this next baby), not really to us, or to the community [...]

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The disappearing switcheroo

by Lyn December 12, 2008

Gail and I often think about the different dynamics of TTC #1 vs. TTC #2. I wrote before about how somehow TTC this time had much more of a taint of selfishness, that somehow, when it is perfectly clear that I can fully love and parent a child whom I didn’t birth, and yet feel [...]

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The inevitable awkward questions

by Lyn December 8, 2008

Gail’s post got me thinking about how we handle the inevitable somewhat awkward conversations that come up due to our family structure. As she wrote, we’ve both noticed they come up much more now that we’re back in pregnancy (and later, little baby) land. I noticed some time ago that we had developed some mix [...]

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An old scar

by Gail December 5, 2008

We just had Lyn’s midwife appointment and got to hear the heartbeat again! We’re happy and relieved. We are also starting to get over the monster cold from hell, which is a relief. I’m still coughing my head off, but my fever is gone and I don’t feel quite so crappy. Lyn is still coughing [...]

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