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GP (biomom) issues

Reading about Leigh’s birth, my thoughts as the birthing mom

by Gail January 25, 2012

I know that Lyn has heard a lot of great feedback on the birth story that she wrote from the NGP perspective (see part I and part II). I was also excited to read the story, but I didn’t really expect to learn anything I didn’t already know. I was there, after all, and Lyn [...]

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Mom titles, the kindergarten edition

by Lyn January 6, 2012

Leigh started kindergarten this fall. She’s doing great and we are slowly adjusting to being parents of a “school-age” kid. Our district is extremely supportive of GLBT-headed families. They have a family-liason specifically for GLBT issues, who is a resource for teachers, students and families. We’ve always been certain that the school and the district [...]

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Do you love them differently?

by Lyn August 28, 2011

On Gail’s post a while back about what we call ourselves as parents (and in what contexts), Chris, whose partner is perhaps soon trying to conceive another child for their family, asked “I am very worried I will not (love) this child as much as mine. I worry I won’t treat them equally. Hetero women [...]

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Under the Bus

by Lyn February 28, 2011

Several months ago, I was home with Leigh and Ira, and they were roughhousing. There are a few more glimpses these days of them actually playing together for real, but at that point, any “play” involved one of them tackling the other. They were going at it, Leigh fell back on top of Ira, and [...]

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An old scar, revisited

by Gail January 30, 2011

When Lyn was pregnant with Ira, I wrote about how talk about the donor, and about Leigh’s resemblance to me, was a little painful. Things have changed quite a lot in this area since Ira was born. For one thing, both Lyn and I are more comfortable with donor issues. We’ve talked to Leigh about [...]

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The Nursing Triad

by Lyn October 13, 2010

Lex made a beautiful post a while back about her experiences as an non-gestational parent (NGP) once her 13-month-old was night weaned. Lex nursed her first three kids, boys that she gave birth to, for multiple years each, and has been supportive of her wife nursing their fourth kid in a similar way, in addition [...]

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Who should birth the baby?

by Lyn October 1, 2010

Since many lesbian couples contain two working uteri, and possibly two women willing to conceive, choosing who will try to get pregnant is a place where lesbian couples have options that a straight families don’t.  In what follows, I’m making the assumption that both partners are open to pregnancy (though perhaps with a discrepancy in [...]

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Family Week: Support, Advocacy, and Difficult Conversations

by Gail August 12, 2010
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We recently came back from a terrific trip to Provincetown for Family Week. We had a great time and will likely be attending the gathering again many times. It’s wonderful to look around town and realize that most of the families you see are headed by queer people. Everywhere you look there are two moms [...]

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A Fine Line

by Lyn March 12, 2010

In our newly rested state, we managed to get all four of us to shabbat services last Saturday morning. Ira hasn’t been to services in a while, and he spent time crawling around the prayer space, happily visiting with friends, pulling up, smiling and laughing. The last time he attended, he wasn’t yet crawling well, [...]

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It’s all my fault: sleep and guilt

by Lyn January 26, 2010

I don’t do sleep deprivation. Or rather, when circumstances demand it, the result isn’t pretty. Lack of sleep brings out all the worst aspects of my personality. I think this is true for everyone, but I learned long ago that life is so much better, both for me and for those around me, if I [...]

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Just me and baby

by Lyn October 18, 2009

My Dad’s mom passed away last week. It wasn’t necessarily unexpected and she lived a long and good life, but it was somewhat sudden. Gail and I decided it was a good idea for me to fly out all the way to the other coast with Ira to be with my dad during this time, [...]

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