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Switching uteri

Nighttime Parenting

by Gail July 1, 2009

I have now been doing one feeding a day for Ira for a little over a week. Some of the feedings have been a little challenging, but overall the project is going well. I have a much better understanding on my son’s feeding patterns. I am sometimes deciding when he is hungry and when he [...]

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Sharing Lactation, Part I

by Gail June 21, 2009

Either Sunday or Monday, I am finally going to take the plunge and begin nursing Ira. At this point, I’m pumping about 10-13 ounces a day, or a little over 2 ounces each time I pump (5x daily). This isn’t enough to be the sole milk supplier, but it is enough to feed half of [...]

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Now I get it (being a non-bio mom is hard)

by Gail June 5, 2009

Earlier this week I was feeling like I had this whole two-kid thing locked up. Sure, I can take care of Lyn, keep the house clean, change poopy diapers, and deal with a toddler. No problem.Yesterday I had to face up to the fact that it’s actually hard. Sure, I can do everything needed to [...]

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I am grateful for the chance to be an NGP

by Gail May 5, 2009

In part because of Lyn’s recent complications, I’ve been spending a lot of my time taking care of her. Some of that care is physical: massages are particularly soothing for her right now. Some of the care is emotional. Much of the care consists of doing the lion’s share work needed to take care of [...]

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Do those hormones really make you hog the baby?

by Lyn April 15, 2009

I have been thinking some about what oneofhismoms wrote about having more empathy for how hard it is to really back off and let one’s partner get the time they really need to parent, now that she’s been on both sides of the bio-vs-non-bio-mom fence. She writes: “There are so many things about being a [...]

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Imagine Our Perfect Birth

by Gail February 9, 2009

In our hypnobirthing class we did an exercise called “fear release.” In this technique, you imagine yourself in a safe space, visualize your fears around birth, and then destroy or dispose of those fears. For instance, you might imagine a book containing pictures of the things that worry you. You tear those pages out of [...]

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In which I probably stick my foot firmly in my mouth

by Lyn January 12, 2009

Now that I’ve been moving into a healthier place (I’m damn near perky), I’ve been feeling extremely grateful, both because I’m doing better at realizing what a treat this pregnancy is, but also because from this new perspective, I’m finding a lot to be proud of in what I built with Leigh, and how Gail [...]

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In the club?

by Lyn January 8, 2009

I’ve always been a person who is most comfortable at the edge of an established group. For example, in many ways, I was much happier as a Jew before I actually converted last spring. Prior to converting I was pretty much the most deluxe non-Jew you could ask for. I’d been participating in Jewish holidays [...]

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It’s not a race

by Lyn December 29, 2008

Gail and I got into one of our big discussions last week in which Gail was insisting that with two moms in a family (with children arriving via any means), you inevitably end up with some form of competition, whether it is spoken or not. Maybe it’s competition around who is most skilled at parenting, [...]

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Some things don’t change

by Lyn December 18, 2008

First of all: wow people. The comments on the switcheroo post are amazing. We haven’t been doing this long, but it is wonderful to already have such thoughtful and clever readers. Gail and I had several discussions about the smart things you said, and have now started to refer to our (ongoing) debate over when/if [...]

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The disappearing switcheroo

by Lyn December 12, 2008

Gail and I often think about the different dynamics of TTC #1 vs. TTC #2. I wrote before about how somehow TTC this time had much more of a taint of selfishness, that somehow, when it is perfectly clear that I can fully love and parent a child whom I didn’t birth, and yet feel [...]

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