From the category archives:

Switching uteri

Do you love them differently?

by Lyn August 28, 2011

On Gail’s post a while back about what we call ourselves as parents (and in what contexts), Chris, whose partner is perhaps soon trying to conceive another child for their family, asked “I am very worried I will not (love) this child as much as mine. I worry I won’t treat them equally. Hetero women [...]

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Under the Bus

by Lyn February 28, 2011

Several months ago, I was home with Leigh and Ira, and they were roughhousing. There are a few more glimpses these days of them actually playing together for real, but at that point, any “play” involved one of them tackling the other. They were going at it, Leigh fell back on top of Ira, and [...]

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An old scar, revisited

by Gail January 30, 2011

When Lyn was pregnant with Ira, I wrote about how talk about the donor, and about Leigh’s resemblance to me, was a little painful. Things have changed quite a lot in this area since Ira was born. For one thing, both Lyn and I are more comfortable with donor issues. We’ve talked to Leigh about [...]

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Who should birth the baby?

by Lyn October 1, 2010

Since many lesbian couples contain two working uteri, and possibly two women willing to conceive, choosing who will try to get pregnant is a place where lesbian couples have options that a straight families don’t.  In what follows, I’m making the assumption that both partners are open to pregnancy (though perhaps with a discrepancy in [...]

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Thoughts on “The Kids Are All Right”

by Gail August 31, 2010
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Lyn and I finally went out to see “The Kids are All Right” over the weekend. We got a babysitter and everything. Since we’re behind the times, we really don’t want to write another review. There are lots of good ones out there, including reviews from Mombian and Lesbian Dad. We agree: it’s a good [...]

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Worry about weaning

by Lyn June 29, 2010

I have a super power. I can worry, full throttle, about two completely contradictory things at the same time.  I’ll illustrate with a current example: As soon as Ira turned one, I began to worry that I was nursing him both for too long, and too short. Apparently my definition of “too long” was any [...]

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Creating Stability to Protect Our Families

by Gail June 25, 2010

When parents break up, everyone suffers. Some people suffer economically when their household loses income. Other people suffer when they don’t get to see their children as much as they used to (or in the ways they want to). In lesbian-headed families, NGPs (non-bio-moms) often have a legal disadvantage when it comes to custody. We [...]

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Thoughts upon reading “She Looks Just Like You”

by Lyn June 16, 2010
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I just finished reading the new book by Amie Klemnauer Miller:  “She Looks Just Like You:  A Memoir of (Nonbiological Lesbian) Motherhood.” Now, to be clear, we don’t buy books.  We live as a family of four in a 650 square foot condo and we do not consider any but the most important reference books [...]

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A lesson I want to learn

by Lyn April 29, 2010

When we meet other parents (straight), if it happens to come up in conversation that each of us carried one of our children, the relatively consistent response is approximately “What a great idea!” or “I wish we could do that!” Members of two-mom families, who understand the work and luck it takes to get pregnant [...]

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A Fine Line

by Lyn March 12, 2010

In our newly rested state, we managed to get all four of us to shabbat services last Saturday morning. Ira hasn’t been to services in a while, and he spent time crawling around the prayer space, happily visiting with friends, pulling up, smiling and laughing. The last time he attended, he wasn’t yet crawling well, [...]

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Choosing to parent

by Gail July 10, 2009

Last week, Lyn and I had a crisis of sorts. Really, it was just a late-night breakdown in which we grappled with the difficulties facing us as we deal with having a new baby. My big revelation came when we were talking about the long list of things I have on my plate and Lyn [...]

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