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Parenting

Sleep Update

by Lyn February 17, 2010

We’re way overdue for a sleep update here, and I’m pleased to report (you have no idea just how pleased…wait, some of you probably do) that we are in a much better place (at least for now). We finally found an approach that worked for all of us (in our case it was Sleep Lady [...]

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It’s all my fault: sleep and guilt

by Lyn January 26, 2010

I don’t do sleep deprivation. Or rather, when circumstances demand it, the result isn’t pretty. Lack of sleep brings out all the worst aspects of my personality. I think this is true for everyone, but I learned long ago that life is so much better, both for me and for those around me, if I [...]

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Book Review: Equally Shared Parenting

by Lyn December 28, 2009

Our friends, Marc and Amy, have a brand new book out: Equally Shared Parenting: rewriting the rules for a new generation of parents. We got a sneak peak and it is amazing. It’s written primarily for heterosexual couples, but Marc and Amy write a convincing welcome to gay and lesbian families, and also include a [...]

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Rest for parents

by Gail December 27, 2009

For about six years now, Lyn and I have observed Shabbat in some form. We don’t work on Shabbat, we light candles and sing blessings in the evening, and we generally pray at our havurah on Saturday mornings. Since we began our Shabbat observance, it has changed and grown, generally moving toward increasing observance. It [...]

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This job is impossible; how are you going to help?

by Gail October 29, 2009

Yesterday, I was in the drug store with both kids, buying Halloween candy and bottle nipples with a faster flow so I can feed Ira in under 45 minutes. We’d already had a lovely trip to the hardware store and the grocery story. The stroller was loaded with cider, a pumpkin, and the three bags [...]

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When your toddler prefers one parent

by Lyn August 27, 2009

Last week, Gail and I got some time to spend just with Leigh. Grandma (Gail’s mom) spent a few hours with Ira while we both took Leigh downtown for a carousel ride and lunch. We had a wonderful time, just the three of us like old times, and noticed two things. Wow is it ever [...]

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Non-Bio Mom Manifesto

by Lyn July 11, 2009

In our meltdown last week, generously fueled by hormones and sleep deprivation, Gail said something that really hit home. As she wrote, she said that she is finding it hard that as an NGP, she has to choose to parent Ira. Her care for him isn’t forced by the only truly essential need he has [...]

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Choosing to parent

by Gail July 10, 2009

Last week, Lyn and I had a crisis of sorts. Really, it was just a late-night breakdown in which we grappled with the difficulties facing us as we deal with having a new baby. My big revelation came when we were talking about the long list of things I have on my plate and Lyn [...]

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Nighttime Parenting

by Gail July 1, 2009

I have now been doing one feeding a day for Ira for a little over a week. Some of the feedings have been a little challenging, but overall the project is going well. I have a much better understanding on my son’s feeding patterns. I am sometimes deciding when he is hungry and when he [...]

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Sleeping like a Log with a Baby?

by Gail June 15, 2009

Many parents report that the birth of their first child represents the end of sleep. There’s the difficult newborn stage to get through which requires you to be up every few hours, but it’s more than that. Parents report that a kind of hypervigilance sets in that keeps them from falling or staying deeply asleep. [...]

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Now I get it (being a non-bio mom is hard)

by Gail June 5, 2009

Earlier this week I was feeling like I had this whole two-kid thing locked up. Sure, I can take care of Lyn, keep the house clean, change poopy diapers, and deal with a toddler. No problem.Yesterday I had to face up to the fact that it’s actually hard. Sure, I can do everything needed to [...]

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