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First Time Second Time

Category Archives: Nursing and bottle feeding

The Nursing Triad

October 13, 2010

Lex made a beautiful post a while back about her experiences as an non-gestational parent (NGP) once her 13-month-old was …

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Baby Cuddling and (not) Nursing

July 6, 2010

I’ve realized lately that I am enjoying much more snuggling and physical affection with Ira than I did with Leigh …

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Worry about weaning

June 29, 2010

I have a super power. I can worry, full throttle, about two completely contradictory things at the same time.  I’ll …

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Nighttime Parenting Guilt

June 20, 2010

Lyn and I have had a large number of different nighttime parenting arrangements. When I was still nursing Ira (and …

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A Fine Line

March 12, 2010

In our newly rested state, we managed to get all four of us to shabbat services last Saturday morning. Ira …

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It’s all my fault: sleep and guilt

January 26, 2010

I don’t do sleep deprivation. Or rather, when circumstances demand it, the result isn’t pretty. Lack of sleep brings out …

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Nursing Nag

September 2, 2009

I was talking with a good friend about her upcoming baby, and she asked me for the dirt on what …

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Nursing Update: hitting my stride

August 19, 2009

It was recently brought to our attention that everyone gets to hear all about my nursing, but Lyn is a …

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Flying Solo

August 9, 2009

Lyn and I are both back at work part time this month and as a result I recently began spending …

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Inducing Lactation: Pros and Cons

July 29, 2009

The lactation project has been going well. I spend every other night in the bedroom with Ira, while Lyn gets …

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About Us

We are Gail, a queer mom, and Ezekiel, a trans dad, parents to Leigh (born 6/06) and Ira (born 5/09). We've been writing here about the challenging and amazing parts of queer parenting since 2008. Prior to Ezekiel's transition, we wrote as a two-mom family. We've preserved that writing under his old pseudonym Lyn and old posts by Gail. You can read more about us here.
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Categories

  • Before the baby
    • Another baby?
    • Pregnancy and birth
    • Trying to Concieve / Before Baby
  • Best of FTST
  • Coming out
  • Family of origin
  • Inducing lactation
  • Interacting with the world
  • Links and Reviews
  • Nursing and bottle feeding
  • Parenting
  • Queer & Trans* Families
  • Roles and Relationships
    • Donor conception
    • Gender
    • GP (gestational parent) issues
    • NGP (non-gestational parent) issues
    • Shared parenting
    • Siblings
  • Switching uteri
  • Trans* Partner
  • Transition
    • Physical transition
    • Social transition
    • Transition and Kids
    • Transition at work
    • Transition in LTR
  • Uncategorized
  • Work-Family issues

Archive

Blogroll

  • Adventures of a trans man
  • Bionic mamas
  • Day daddy night daddy
  • Evolving gender
  • Insert metaphor
  • My life without tits
  • Neutrois nonsense
  • Planting rainbows
  • Queer dads
  • Queer rock love
  • Southeast soffa
  • The falco project
  • Visibly transparent

Resources for Trans* Partners

  • ’Is this the ‘New Normal?’ Suggestions for Coping with the Tough Parts of Your Partner’s Transition
  • ElectricDade (YouTube) YouTube channel of Dade, which also features videos by Dade’s wife Tiffany.
  • Elspeth Brown's Transpartner's Project This has a list of resources including academic papers and multimedia (video, etc.)
  • en|Gender Blog & resources, including forum & email list, for all, but leans toward partners of trans women
  • Everyday to Stay Short documentary by Chase Joynt about two couples in which one partner is an FTM man
  • FTMSweethearts YouTube collab channel featuring partners of trans men.
  • How to support FTM partner or SOFFA
  • My life with a transman Possibly abandoned blog by a partner of a transitioning man
  • Permission to Live Blog by former fundamentalist/quiverfull mom, now lesbian partnered trans woman parenting 5 kids.
  • TMatesFTM (YouTube) An active YouTube collab channel featuring partners of FTM people.
  • Trans-positioned by Loree Cook-Daniels Perspectives specifically for lesbian-identified partners of FTM men

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