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Baby Cuddling and (not) Nursing

by Gail July 6, 2010

I’ve realized lately that I am enjoying much more snuggling and physical affection with Ira than I did with Leigh at the same age. There might be lots of reasons for this including my flawed memory and the differences between the two kids. But it also occurred to me yesterday that it might be due [...]

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Old pain and new paths

by Lyn April 20, 2010

As Gail mentioned, we went to a workshop on talking to kids about donor conception last weekend. It was organized by the Massachusetts RESOLVE chapter and was very well done. I highly recommend checking out such a workshop if it is available in your area, and for those in MA, this is a repeating event. [...]

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When your toddler prefers one parent

by Lyn August 27, 2009

Last week, Gail and I got some time to spend just with Leigh. Grandma (Gail’s mom) spent a few hours with Ira while we both took Leigh downtown for a carousel ride and lunch. We had a wonderful time, just the three of us like old times, and noticed two things. Wow is it ever [...]

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Inducing Lactation: Pros and Cons

by Gail July 29, 2009

The lactation project has been going well. I spend every other night in the bedroom with Ira, while Lyn gets a good night’s sleep in the living room. Most of the nights I am able to feed Ira all night without even using the supplemental nurser or a bottle. On the nights I’m going to [...]

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Non-Bio Mom Manifesto

by Lyn July 11, 2009

In our meltdown last week, generously fueled by hormones and sleep deprivation, Gail said something that really hit home. As she wrote, she said that she is finding it hard that as an NGP, she has to choose to parent Ira. Her care for him isn’t forced by the only truly essential need he has [...]

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I am grateful for the chance to be an NGP

by Gail May 5, 2009

In part because of Lyn’s recent complications, I’ve been spending a lot of my time taking care of her. Some of that care is physical: massages are particularly soothing for her right now. Some of the care is emotional. Much of the care consists of doing the lion’s share work needed to take care of [...]

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An old scar

by Gail December 5, 2008

We just had Lyn’s midwife appointment and got to hear the heartbeat again! We’re happy and relieved. We are also starting to get over the monster cold from hell, which is a relief. I’m still coughing my head off, but my fever is gone and I don’t feel quite so crappy. Lyn is still coughing [...]

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Acupuncture poster child, Part II

by Lyn November 17, 2008

(See some of the backstory in Part I) My first cycle with acupuncturist Li was excruciating. It was extremely long, and when I started bleeding at work on the first day of my period, the pain was so extreme I nearly passed out. My new boss (I had only been on the job about a [...]

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Acupuncture poster child, Part I

by Lyn November 13, 2008

I’ve gotten a several questions lately about my acupuncture treatment, so I thought I’d post them in case other folks are looking for information. I’m kind of an acupuncture poster child, and I don’t mean to imply, in that way that anecdotal evidence does, that acupuncture will work for everyone else just as well. But [...]

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I couldn’t be happier, but …

by Gail November 4, 2008

My wife is kind of an NGP (“non-gestational parent”) master. Really, she’s quite good at being a non-bio mom. She’s like those professional ice skaters that make it look completely effortless. Sure, I remember back in those days when I was pregnant with Leigh and we had many conversations that included expressions of frustration and [...]

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Inducing Lactation

by Gail October 21, 2008

This had been a really difficult post for me to sit down and write. Every time I start, I feel as though I am opening a can of worms, and it’s a can of really tangled up worms, so I can’t even take them out one and a time. But just today I think I’ve [...]

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