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Lyn is "Mama" to Leigh (born 6/06, via Gail) and Ira (born 5/09, via Lyn) and wife to Gail. In addition to parenting, knitting, biking and ruminating on the ins and outs of two-mom parenting, she is a mathematician and neuroscientist.

Stereotype Breakers

by Lyn August 14, 2011

We’re friends with a family with a somewhat gender-variant son, Q, who likes pink and wears his hair long (and identifies as a boy, you can read their smart thoughts at labels are for jars). Leigh has played with Q a few times, and thinks he’s fabulous, and specifically asks if we can play with [...]

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Talking to kids about reproduction

by Lyn June 2, 2011
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[NOTE: It was blogging for lgbt families day yesterday! Finally, after about three years, we actually managed a post on a day vaguely near the day itself and this seems like a worthy contribution so I'm going with it. Check out lots of other great posts here, and many thanks to Mombian for rounding everyone [...]

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“Two Ima”

by Lyn May 2, 2011

A few days ago, Ira (about to turn two) pointed at me, turned to his grandmother, and said “Two Ima! Two Ima!” as if he had just made a major discovery. Now, I’m not his Ima. That’s Gail, and she wasn’t in the house at the time. Grandma and I looked at each other a [...]

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Some non-bio-mom reading

by Lyn April 14, 2011

I always get a little thrill when I find someone writing about being a lesbian non-bio-mom (for the time being, let’s decide we actually agree on what to call us); not just the “my kid is cute and amazing” writing, but the stuff about what it’s really like, about what’s great, surprising or hard. Thus, [...]

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Third time?

by Lyn March 20, 2011

Things have been quiet around here for a while. There’s a reason. Much of our parenting/family wavelength for the last 6-12 months has been taken up deciding if we want to try for a third child. This blog is not really anonymous (anymore, it was when we were trying for Ira). Plenty of our real [...]

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Under the Bus

by Lyn February 28, 2011

Several months ago, I was home with Leigh and Ira, and they were roughhousing. There are a few more glimpses these days of them actually playing together for real, but at that point, any “play” involved one of them tackling the other. They were going at it, Leigh fell back on top of Ira, and [...]

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Pre-kid relationship-protection reading list

by Lyn February 13, 2011

Ages ago, I posted a response to “She Looks Just Like You” by Aimee Klempnauer Miller, and like many readers, was struck by the extreme difficulties she and her partner had preserving their relationship during the early months and years of parenting. After that post, blog friend MamaDeux posted a response in which she, when [...]

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A few updates

by Lyn December 22, 2010

We’re about to head off to visit family, likely continuing our current radio silence, so I wanted to get a few updates out in the meantime: Ira is now well settled in at daycare (he goes the same place as Leigh, both 3 days a week).  He’s the baby in the group of 12, but [...]

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The Nursing Triad

by Lyn October 13, 2010

Lex made a beautiful post a while back about her experiences as an non-gestational parent (NGP) once her 13-month-old was night weaned. Lex nursed her first three kids, boys that she gave birth to, for multiple years each, and has been supportive of her wife nursing their fourth kid in a similar way, in addition [...]

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Who should birth the baby?

by Lyn October 1, 2010

Since many lesbian couples contain two working uteri, and possibly two women willing to conceive, choosing who will try to get pregnant is a place where lesbian couples have options that a straight families don’t.  In what follows, I’m making the assumption that both partners are open to pregnancy (though perhaps with a discrepancy in [...]

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A perk of shared parenting: guilt-free travel (by myself)

by Lyn August 22, 2010

For the first time since Ira’s birth, I’m on my way to a professional conference. For five days, someone else will do the cooking and I won’t have to clean up after anybody (well, other than myself a little bit). I can easily take a shower every day if I want to (without any children [...]

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