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Gail is Ima ("Mom" in Hebrew) to Leigh (born via Gail 6/06) and Ira (born via Lyn 5/09) and wife to Lyn. She's a mathematician by trade and has done some work applying game theory to division of household labor. She enjoys thinking about how people create their identities as parents and issues between GPs (gestational parents) and NGPs (non-gestational parents).

I read that donor conception report and lived to tell the tale

by Gail August 17, 2010

Well, I did it. Sort of. When I posted briefly about the “My Daddy’s Name is Donor” report by the no-really-we’re-not-anti-GLBT Institute for American Values last month, Bionic Baby Mama asked that I please take a look at the report because she had and she wanted someone else’s opinion. So now I have, but only [...]

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Family Week: Support, Advocacy, and Difficult Conversations

by Gail August 12, 2010
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We recently came back from a terrific trip to Provincetown for Family Week. We had a great time and will likely be attending the gathering again many times. It’s wonderful to look around town and realize that most of the families you see are headed by queer people. Everywhere you look there are two moms [...]

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Family and Parenting Roundup End-of-July Edition

by Gail July 27, 2010

How did I miss this? Steel yourself and head over for a moment to the Institute for American Values. Read the goals of the organization. Spend a little time poking around on their blog. After a little digging you should see that this is a conservative think tank, opposed to queer parents and single parents, [...]

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An ode to non-parental care

by Gail July 20, 2010

I love spending time with my kids, and I think that I’m a fairly good parent. Lyn is a pretty good parent, too. I am thrilled to be parenting with her because she has skills that I don’t have. She draws better boundaries with our four-year-old, Leigh. She worries more about safety and keeps me [...]

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Inducing Lactation: A Wrap-Up of the Big Experiment

by Gail July 16, 2010

We know that a number of people end up here because they are looking for information on inducing lactation, particularly in a family with two moms. Now that the induction project has been over for some time, I wanted to gather all of the relevant posts in one location for anyone who might want to [...]

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Baby Cuddling and (not) Nursing

by Gail July 6, 2010

I’ve realized lately that I am enjoying much more snuggling and physical affection with Ira than I did with Leigh at the same age. There might be lots of reasons for this including my flawed memory and the differences between the two kids. But it also occurred to me yesterday that it might be due [...]

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Parenting Roundup, Discussions, Links

by Gail July 2, 2010

I’ve had a lot of fun this week reading blog posts and news about parenting. Thought I’d share! Bree writes a thoughtful and difficult post that starts with what happens in a lesbian family when your daughter says, “Now you’ve each got your real kid sitting with you,” meaning each mom has their bio-child on [...]

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Creating Stability to Protect Our Families

by Gail June 25, 2010

When parents break up, everyone suffers. Some people suffer economically when their household loses income. Other people suffer when they don’t get to see their children as much as they used to (or in the ways they want to). In lesbian-headed families, NGPs (non-bio-moms) often have a legal disadvantage when it comes to custody. We [...]

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Nighttime Parenting Guilt

by Gail June 20, 2010
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Lyn and I have had a large number of different nighttime parenting arrangements. When I was still nursing Ira (and he was still waking up about ten million times a night), we traded full nights, each taking every other night. These days (now that Ira sleeps in until 4 or 5am, ugh), I’m officially “on” [...]

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Welcome to our new home!

by Gail June 16, 2010

I’ve spent much of the past week getting us set up in this, our new home on the web. I hope you like it — feel free to make suggestions if you have them! If you subscribed to the feedburner feed, your feed should still work (if not, you should really subscribe), and any links [...]

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Donor Conception

by Gail April 16, 2010

If you have even a passing acquaintance with our family, you know that we didn’t acquire our children through the “traditional” method. Two women simply can’t combine their genetic material to make a baby. Both of our children were conceived through the use of frozen donor sperm. It was our first choice for how we [...]

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